And They All Look Just The Same

 

November 2nd, 2011. I know. I can’t believe it, either.

Things have been quiet on this blog for quite a while—-I keep thinking of things to write about, but then Life happens and the thought/urge/will disappears.

A few years ago I would have been annoyed at myself, but these days I’m just kind of rolling with it. It feels good to be free.

Did you enjoy your Halloween? I did. There are many more children in our neighborhood now, and I really got a kick out of seeing new little (sticky) faces running up and down the street as they compared bounty and reported on the “good houses.”

While I followed the baby make her way up and down the stairs (the big kids were up ahead with their friends) it really struck me how even in a friendly neighborhood where you think you know everybody, you don’t. I don’t. I surprised myself at how very little I know about the guy with the white truck who always takes the garbage cans out early in the afternoon instead of waiting for the last minute, and how I never knew where the fast-walking mom with the expensive Bob stroller lives. I didn’t know the mail lady lived only three streets away. I didn’t know that the older gentleman who stops almost daily to chat about roses (they came with the house — I know nothing about roses) lived in the green house with the peeled paint that I drive by 6 or 7 times a day. And I didn’t know he had a cat; now I have something else to talk to him about.

How can I live in a tight-knit community and not really know anyone? I know natural disasters are supposed to bring neighbors together— surely I can’t wait for that to happen.

No. I can’t.

but I can walk a little slower and stop and chat when I’m on the way to the library. I can leave the house a few minutes earlier to go get the kids and pick new people in the school yard to talk to. I can return conversation in the checkout line instead of trying to get all my gossip-reading in as quick as possible.

I can get to know the person, the real person, behind the picket fence. Or the stroller. Or the library bag. Or the shopping cart. Or the truck with the offensive bumper sticker (well, maybe not that guy).

So that’s my plan for November. To try to connect— to be a better listener. Every house I hurry by on my way to somewhere else has a real person, or a real family, with a real story, and I can’t keep pretending that I (or my own family, my own problems) am the only one that matters.

 

 

 

 

Starting a Family Game Night

We play a lot of games in our house. This is a photo of the family game shelves in the garage. The board games and puzzles are accessible to the big kids, but out of reach from the baby. I try to maintain a “one or two games in the house at a time” rule, to limit lost or damaged pieces.

Since my kids vary in ages (9, 6, and seventeen months), we have quite a few to choose from– but truly only play a handful on a regular basis. I always thought it would be a good idea to have a way to rent board games. Or a lending library. This might be neat to set up in schools, or through your church or neighborhood— something free the whole family can enjoy that promotes togetherness.

If you’re new to playing board/card games with your children, do not expect everyone to have fun and get along perfectly. This is real life. Go with the flow, and try not to be a dictator. Rules are important, but good sportsmanship is a much more valuable lesson to learn. I’m okay with bending rules or getting new cards/scrabble pieces to keep a game moving along and to retain interest, but the family needs to agree. Anything sneaky is cheating, and that’s not okay.

It’s not about winning or losing. It’s how you play the game. — Grantland Rice

words to live by!

Preschool Games (no reading required):

Candyland– this is THE classic preschool board game. This game teaches the “luck of the draw,” taking turns, and color recognition. Ages 2.5 or so and up–child needs to be able to not flip the board, and understand taking turns.

Chutes and Ladders– the other classic preschool board game. This game has a spinner, and is a great way to introduce numbers. Try to just enjoy and not turn each play into a math lesson. Let the math come naturally— learning is best when it’s not forced, anyway! ages 4 and up.

Memory– this simple matching game is fun for all ages. If you have very young children, start with only 5-10 pairs, then build up. When I taught preschool, I started the little ones right around age 18 months. You’ll be surprised at how quickly small guys figure it out!

HyperDash– great indoor game on a rainy day, or outdoor game to let a pack of kids run off some energy. The ages on the box says for ages 7 and up, but I think that recommendation is completely out-of-whack. There are batteries, but this is a fantastic preschool game–I’d say for ages 3 and up.

Connect Four–a large version of tic-tac-toe, Connect Four is appropriate for ages 4 and over, and I still really enjoy playing with the kids. This is a good way to teach planning-ahead and strategy– important skills for more advanced games.

Go Fish, Uno, Old Maid, Crazy Eights (you can usually find these games at your local Dollar Store)– great classic card games to toss in the diaper bag, beach bag, to keep in the glove compartment, etc. You can customize the games for smaller children by limiting the amount of cards in play. Although the Uno deck says for ages 7 and up, I taught a group of 4-year-olds who picked the game up quite quickly.

Jenga –family building game, or a solo game. It’s kind of tricky to rebuild the stack for small children, but lots of fun to knock down, or to watch mom or dad “mess up” and knock the tower over.

Young School-Aged children (but still fun for older kids/adults!)

Battleship — beginning strategy game, teaches graph/cooordinates-reading. 2 player game, ages 6 and up (looks like Amazon doesn’t carry the regular vs.; you’ll need to look locally).

Bananagrams– introduction to scrabble; no scoring needed. Easier to play on the run than scrabble, and feels more organic (although we do play a fair amount of scrabble).

Apples to Apples Jr. — we love this game for building vocabulary, and for just a great family game. Children need to be able to read/sound out words. Ages 6 1/2 or 7 or so and up. GREAT game for a large group, family gathering with all ages, etc.

Boggle — fun, quick family game. Builds vocabulary, promotes reading/word-making. ages 6 and up or so. Fun for adults—Adam and I get quite competitive with Boggle.

Yahtzee — Great math skills game. This game also sets up the framework to play poker, which is a valuable skill, right? (gotta be better than Liar’s Dice… at least…)

Older Elementary-aged children to adult

Clue — the new version has added a few more rooms and weapons, and “intrigue” cards. Our family ignores the intrigue cards, and plays the classic way– we just try to solve the crime. If you’re playing with teenagers or an adults-only game, you might want to use the intrigue cards. This game is best with 3 or more players.

Blokus — Remember the old Game Boy game, Tetris? (there’s probably an app for that now, huh?) Blokus is a boardgame version of Tetris. Players use geometric blocks to build board presence and block players. Teaches spatial awareness, logic, and strategy. The game works the best with 4 players, although you can play with 2 or 3.

Carcassonne My friend, Kelly, from The Spunky Coconut told me about this game, and we’ve been playing it every couple days ever since. My kids cheat too much when they play on their own— I’d recommend having an adult involved. This is our current favorite, and when/if we outgrow this game, there are add-ons available. Great way to introduce more advanced games like Risk (which we own, but I still haven’t figured out!).

Cranium Family — This family game combines classics like pictionary, charades, and name that song in an entertaining (and not too challenging) way. (PS. Amazon is listing this for $57 right now, which is absurd. I have no idea why.)

These are our current favorites, but I’m ALWAYS on the lookout for great new games. If you have any other suggestions for me to keep an eye out for, please let me know!

super quick update

I’m here! It’s mind-boggling to me that I haven’t written on this site since February 28.

I’m sorry.

Things are going really well around here. The baby is 14 months, growing molars, learning words, and trying to climb ON EVERYTHING. Her big sisters never were big climbers, so this is throwing me for a loop.

kids are wonderful.

I’ve been quite reflective lately. The earthquake and tsunami in Japan has really caused me to retreat into a contemplative state, and I’m finding that I am very aware of the fragility of life, which allows me to find a heightened sense of pleasure in doing the most minute things.

like folding laundry.

I know.

it’s weird.

I feel unsettled at the moment. I have a sense of urgency that we are (our family; totally self-centered, here, sorry. :-0 ) not where we are meant to be.  I go from wanting to pull the kids from school and go live on a farm somewhere off the grid to being completely overwhelmed with emotion at how wonderful it is that the kids are able to see their grandparents (and great-grandparents!) pretty much daily.

I had the opportunity to go to Boulder, Colorado a week or so ago, and met with the most amazing group of women–most of whom I’ve never met–yet I was so AWARE that I was “with my people.”

such a strange (and phenomenally wonderful) feeling.

I’m going to a conference on Friday for women entrepreneurs that BlogHer is hosting–(in Silicon Valley, I don’t have to get on a plane, thankfully). I’m supposed to bring/prepare a business plan and list of questions to pose to a mentor. I’ve lost sleep over this assignment! I don’t know where I’m headed, and I don’t know if I need to know.

I’m having fun.

and for that, I am truly thankful.

in other news: I’ve mentioned before that my grandma comes over daily to  baby-wrangle, and watch Good Morning America over coffee. Here’s Grandma Bunny in action. She is wonderful, and again, I am truly thankful.

thursday, the next to the last day of the year

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Mega Millions is over 200 million dollars. $15 of that pot was because of me.

you’re welcome.

Adam’s home today which means nothing will get done. We’re also having a playdate.

It’ll be a good day.

Today:

daily 7

prepare for New Year’s eve

Christmas Eve Eve

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Merry Christmas Eve Eve!

We had a playdate yesterday and made crockpot peanut clusters. By 9 am I had already eaten too many, but just. couldn’t. stop.

by 11:30 am I felt sick.

12 noon I had a radio interview.

12:15pm, I ate 3 more to calm my nerves.

12:18 pm, I packed up all the clusters and put them in the fridge and took the kids outside.

2 pm the kids were all making forts out of cardboard Amazon boxes

2:11 pm I decide to reward myself with more peanut clusters.

and then I must have blacked out because of all the chocolate, because I truly don’t remember what happened the rest of the afternoon.

oh! and I just learned how to Skype, and was all ready to interview Kim from Today’s Creative Blog, and it goes down. Seriously. I’m not going to take the blame, though.

Today:

STAY AWAY FROM THE PEANUT CLUSTERS. They’re for gifts! for other people!

brush your teeth. twice.

daily 7

drink extra water

Tuesday, the 355th day of the year

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Last night was Winter Equinox. And a full Lunar Eclipse.

woah.

The girls and I crammed a million things into our day yesterday—-but it was worth it. We did end up at Michael’s, and while I was prepared for the worst, it was actually a fun visit. We wandered the aisles, and picked up lots of craft supplies on clearance.

I’m learning how to Skype. I feel like such a dork that I’ve never done it before this past weekend, and so I spent a ton of time playing around with it yesterday. I set the kids up on the desktop and I was on the laptop. There was a lot of shouting and squealing—it was great.

Today:

ten days left in this year. make them count. it’s now or never to start your 2010 exercise regimen…

daily 7

take a nap

I’ve got $100 up for grabs at Totally Together Reviews

BlogHer needs more entries on this laptop giveaway

day 349: be thankful for modern dentistry

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Well, all of my anxiety and all-around babyness was for nothing. I was fine. I AM fine. I didn’t even need nitrous oxide, I just used the noise-blocking headphones and cranked up some early 90s muzak.

I am such a dork.

Today:

daily 7

plan a meeting with your spouse. Yes, a meeting. Make sure you’re on the same page with end-of-the-year planning, budgeting, and all that good stuff. Talk about the future—there are only a few weeks to make good on the rest of your personal goals and any items left on the punch list.

Consider planning monthly or even weekly check-ins with each other. While date nights are lovely, they aren’t always practical for many busy families.

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.  ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic’s Notebook, 1966

tuesday: run errands

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Today is the day I finally see the dentist to get those root canals taken care of. Grandpa John is going to sit with the baby, and I need to STOP being a baby and just get this over with.

I ended both of those sentences with a preposition.

I’m anal enough to notice, but not anal enough to correct the mistakes.

in case you were wondering…

I’m tripping out over the power of the Internet. Yesterday  I posted on the crockpot blog that my friend Diane’s son has recently been diagnosed with Lyme’s disease and is stockpiling information on how to best treat the condition. I’m just blown away from the response. There really ARE good people out there (just not at the post office)!

today:

run errands

daily 7

care deeply and give freely.

thursday–catch up

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Things are moving at the speed of light around here. So far, so good, but I can tell that I’m going to crash in the next day or two. It’s inevitable.

Today:

play catch up

plan ahead for the weekend

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breathe.

341 Tuesday

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Yesterday was a series of unfortunate events. Nothing went according to plan. Instead of fighting the apparent laws of nature, I decided to put on pajamas at 7:15pm and climb into bed with the girls and read.

It was a good choice.

I started a discussion on the forums about new year’s resolutions. I’m inspired by Melissa and Sandy to work out more. And I love CBeth’s One Minute Writer— being creative always feels so good.

Today:

daily 7

run errands

wrap/mail/etc.

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