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Day 5–Remember the “WoMom”!

January 5, 2010 by  


This is your new battle cry. The “WoMom” is the woman behind the mom. Becoming somebody’s mother is a life-changing experience. Although you will never again live the relatively carefree life you lived before having children, there are still ways to nurture yourself while you nurture your family.

Uncovering the “WoMom” can be as simple as taking a sudsy bath, browsing a bookstore, or painting your fingernails. Although retail therapy is a favored pastime for many, remembering to focus on yourself needn’t cost money. One of my favorite ways to veg out lately is to watch DVRed episodes of Say Yes to the Dress all by myself.

and now I’m kind of embarrassed…


work on The Daily 7

Come up with one way a week that you can have some alone time

yesterday’s post

tomorrow: day 6–what’s your biggest challenge?

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5 Responses to “Day 5–Remember the “WoMom”!”

  1. laura biggham on January 5th, 2010 10:56 pm

    nothing wrong with say yes to the dress. i like to live vicariouslly through girls who have way too much money to blow on a wedding dress!

  2. Crystal on January 6th, 2010 12:40 am

    I love Say Yes to the Dress! No need to be embarrased.

    Know what I like even more? What Not to Wear!!! Awesome veg-out tube time.

    I totally agree with you, Mom’s do need their ‘me time’- without guilt. I am trying really hard to do that for myself more and more…. before I absolutly lose my mind!


  3. Niki on January 14th, 2010 8:43 pm

    I have to confess that I (newly) love that show, too! I just wish I could watch more of it…there’s always a cartoon or football game that needs to be watched instead! I am new to your blogs, but I love them so much. I appreciate the Wo-Mom in particular. I struggle greatly with doing anything for myself. I am a mom of 2 boys…4 yrs and 8 mos. I never have a sitter! The only time I ever ask for someone to watch them is if I have a dr’s appmnt or some other obligation that wouldn’t allow them to come along. I always feel too guilty to ask someone to watch them so that I can do something just for my own enjoyment. Tomorrow is the first time in who knows when that my mom will be watching the boys for a couple of hours while my best friend and I go have dinner. I must say I am thrilled beyond belief but already feel the guilt coming on. Any suggestions on how to handle this situation?? Thanks again for your great blogs. I have told countless people about your crockpot site…it’s awesome. Congrats on the new baby. I hope you can get some sleep in there somewhere!!

    • Stephanie on January 15th, 2010 4:21 am

      Hi Niki,

      I’m so happy you are going out with a friend! I hear you on the guilt—I really felt that way for a while. It tore me up inside to leave the kids, I felt like I was going to “miss” something important, or thought the kids would be upset with me for leaving.

      Then, all of a sudden, my perspective changed and I realized how important it was for my children to have a bond with their grandparents and other family members, and completely changed my mind. It was wonderful to see how happy my girls were/are when with people other than mom and dad, and how adaptable they are to new situations—which is a good life skill to have.

      good luck! it will get easier each time you leave, I promise. And you definitely need to take care of yourself in order to give back so much.
      xoxo steph

  4. Mindy on July 14th, 2011 11:55 am

    Ha! I was skimmin your article and I had to chuckle because at first glance, my brain interpreted “carefree” (in the first paragraph) as caffiene-free! LOL! Both versions of the statement are true! 😀

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