Labor Day Weekend
September 4, 2010 by Stephanie O'Dea
saturday & sunday
The kids and I have been discussing The Law of Attraction while walking to school the past few days, and I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about it. I flip flop from thinking it’s a great thing to teach young kids to thinking it’s horrible and should completely disappear.
I like positive thinking, and believe it’s vital to teach kids the value in “staying on the sunny side” and that looking for the good in people/things/events is a very important skill to possess.
I have a problem with the “your thoughts become your reality” aspect of the Law of Attraction, specifically the way it’s portrayed in The Secret. I forgot how offensive I found that movie until I saw it at the library last week and brought it home. The insinuation that starving, impoverished people are just not wishing hard enough, or the right way is insulting, and I’d hate for ANY kids to think that if something bad happens to them or their family the people involved are somehow at fault for not having the right thoughts.
I also hate that The Secret is only focused on gaining material things, and no talk at ALL about helping people, providing service, sharing wealth/opportunity/skill, etc. It was so self-serving I felt dirty watching it. I always assumed the Law of Attraction was synonymous with karma or the golden rule. Not so much the way it was explained in this movie.
and I think we can all agree that the fastest way to “get rich quick” is to develop a program for people to “get rich quick”!!
I also brought home the book, The Sham, by Steve Salerno. Salerno argues that The Self Help and Actualization Movement (SHAM) creates more harm than good and that the only person helped is the guru writing the book (by getting a bigger bank account). He also says that the books are filled with fluff and no actual advice or practical solutions—they are instead usually thinly veiled ads for coaching services, mentoring, workshops, etc.
I agree with this to a certain extent. I once heard a radio interview with Robert Kiyosaki who wrote all of the Rich Dad Poor Dad books (I’ve read almost all). Kiyosaki says that he was once criticized by a student who said that he was a horrible writer. His retort was that he wasn’t trying to be a “best writer” but a “best seller.” Hmm. He also went on to say that he views his books as a business card for his Cash Flow games—and that is where he gets most of his fortune (ironic, for a man touting leveraging real estate deals!)
I feel conflicted because I get Salerno’s point, and while I did find myself agreeing with a lot of what he said, some of the authors he tore apart, I like. I like getting excited and feeling motivated. I like that “I can do anything!!” attitude, and do want the kids to grow up feeling that way. My stomach turned when he wrote that it’s a disservice to tell kids that they “could be president someday—-” since the likelihood of that happening was so terribly unlikely. It just seems harsh. Mean. I loved being a dreamer when I was little and feel lucky that no one squashed my bubble.
so that’s where my brain is at the moment. What are your thoughts? Did you like The Secret, or did it make you want to barf? If you didn’t see or read it, what made you stay away? Disinterest? Thinking it was/is phony baloney?
don’t fight with the kids. or with anyone.
if you’re going shopping, don’t bring home anything unless you know where it’s going!