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Totally Together

Take All the Time You Need

April 27, 2011 by  

"there will always, always be MORE to do. It's okay to just BE and enjoy yourself and your family."

“there will always, always be MORE to do. It’s okay to just BE and enjoy yourself and your family.”

Good Morning! I spent the first few hours of the day outside today while the baby (almost sixteen months already!) frolicked in the grass completely naked. Frolicked sounds like such a frivolous word—but that’s truly what she did. She was thrilled to run without a diaper, and skampered about with pure delight.

It was wonderful.

even though her mom made an executive decision to not put sunscreen on her shoulders and figured 15 minutes of under-seventy degree weather was fine and now she has her very first sunburn.


How are things with you? Are you remembering to slow down and soak things in? Are you remembering that life is a journey to be enjoyed and not a race to the finish line?

I forgot this a few weeks ago. I let myself feel other people’s stress. I allowed myself to get sucked into DRAMA that had nothing to do with me. I allowed myself to absorb the tension in others instead of letting it wash over me and then down the drain.

Take the Time to Enjoy the Small Stuff in Life

My wise friend Shirley told me last week that life truly is like a roller coaster—you can fight this fact, or you (universal you, although I let her speak directly to me :-) ) can go with the flow and enjoy the ride.

This morning I enjoyed the ride, and I challenge you to do the same. There will always, always, always be something that you “should” be doing. But usually the shoulds just don’t matter.

they really don’t.

I have received the proofs yesterday for the Totally Together journal. This has been an over-eight-years-in-the-making project, and it’s finally going to print. I was told “no” dozens of times. It took me two years to find a literary agent and then another two years to secure publication, just for it to disappear due to the economic downturn.

Each time I was told “no,” I was upset. It bothered me that agents or publishers couldn’t see my vision. It annoyed me that I allowed myself to become upset. I figured if I was a stronger person, I could take disappointment with grace and not let it weigh me down. I felt guilty for wanting this book to come alive since I had succeeded with the crockpot site/books. I felt guilty for wanting more. I felt like I wasn’t supporting the “brand” of a slow-cooking expert, whatever that means.

I still feel that way at times.

The fact that it’s finally coming out makes my heart swell with pride in such a different way than I felt with the crockpot books. This was something I worked at—and while the crockpot thing was work, it was a different kind of work. I think this was the book/tool I was supposed to produce.

I’ve got a lot of ideas that I want to implement in the next little while to help tie this site to the crockpot site. It’s going to take time, effort, and work. But this time, I’m not going to fight it—-instead, I’m going to trust that the twisty obstacle course is meant to happen. Shirley is right.

I’m going to enjoy the ride.

"there will always, always be MORE to do. It's okay to just BE and enjoy yourself and your family."

I found this today under the play structure–the kids drew it where it can’t be washed away by either rain or the sprinklers. I loved finding it out of the blue.

Even if you’re having an otherwise-icky day, find a rainbow. It’s there, somewhere.

I hope your day is filled with lots and lots and lots of love.

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10 Responses to “Take All the Time You Need”

  1. JConnolly on April 28th, 2011 6:42 am

    Well said, and just the sort of message so many people need right now with all of the craziness going on around us (weather, economy, politics, etc.).

    Glad to hear that your hard work is finally coming to fruition. Good luck!

    • Stephanie on April 28th, 2011 10:24 am

      Thank you! You’re absolutely right—it’s crazy out there right now, but it also is a huge wake up call that it’s time to slow down and count blessings. xoxo

  2. Gina on April 28th, 2011 7:40 am

    Thank you, Stephanie, your timing is perfect. A friend and I went out last night for milkshakes and had this same topic on our minds, how to enjoy our young children while they’re still young but also feel fulfilled and do all the other “stuff” that needs to get done.

    So glad to here TTJ is finally happening. I’ve been waiting so long! :)

    • Stephanie on April 28th, 2011 10:23 am

      Hi Gina, your night out for milkshakes sounds fun! I think slowing down and being present is difficult for most—but it’s something I’d really like to share with my children. xoxo

  3. dominique on April 28th, 2011 7:45 am

    This made my day. I also want you to know that I pre-ordered your book. Very excited! I wish it was out already because my life is crazy and I need some guidance!

    • Stephanie on April 28th, 2011 10:22 am

      thank you, Dominique! thank you for making *my* day. xoxo

  4. Jaime on April 28th, 2011 1:05 pm

    I’m so happy for you Steph! It’s about time. I can’t wait to get this book too!

    Why is it you always seem to write these kinds of posts exactly when I need them? Thanks for the lift. This was my rainbow today.

    • Stephanie on April 28th, 2011 5:56 pm

      glad to be of help. :-) xoxo

  5. Rosie W on April 28th, 2011 7:54 pm

    That’s great news Stephanie! I’ve been watching the ups and downs of your process to get those proofs since before your slow cooker project, looking forward to reading the book and seeing your vision in print form. (I love books!)

    And it’s true…. we have to go with the flow sometimes. Tonight I’m taking fizzy cranberry juice with printed commemorative labels taped to them, and little pink cakes, and my 6 year old, up to my Mums to stay up too late with all the female relatives and have a Royal Wedding Sleepover. Bella is going to be exhausted tomorrow, but how often do you get a Royal Wedding to watch with all the ladies?

  6. Shirley @ gfe on April 28th, 2011 9:36 pm

    Oh, Steph, you’re so sweet to mention me. Even though I know what makes sense, I struggle with it all sometimes, too.

    Big, big congrats on TTJ, the book, moving forward! xo,

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